Everything is a relationship.
A relationship with something is different than it being
part of us, but it is hard to determine exactly where this all begins and ends.
This is important because it is harder to justify taking things personally when
they are a relationship between two things rather than something that is solely
Some relationships are obvious.
Our significant others, our kids, our friends, our
coworkers, etc. These are obviously not all about us. We have these other
people trying to make things happen for themselves and trying to bring their
desires to fruition. We, if we are not mindful, are doing the same thing.
Whatever the case, these exist outside of us. They are doing their thing, we
are doing ours, it’s how these things interact that cause us contentment or
Actually, it is our perspective on (or relationship to) how
these things play out that cause us contentment or struggle.
I know it’s weird to think of things in this way, but
everything is really just a relationship and we can choose who and how we want
to be in relation to it. For real, everything.
Things happen to us and around us and inside of us, and we
have to decide how we are going to react. We have to choose our position toward
these things. This will change the nature of the relationship to those things.
I like this because it keeps us focused on what we can
control and leaves the rest where it belongs. To chance or fate or karma or the
Norns or in God’s hands. However you quantify that uncontrollable aspect of
life, which is most of life.
Choosing our relationship to everything changes everything.
It is where our power lies.
It’s really the only power we have.
Not sleeping is really starting to wear on me.
I am in this weird place where I am exhausted and very awake
at the same time and everything seems a little darker. Basic conversation
is starting to be difficult, and I get a little headrush when I stand up. It’s
definitely something to work with.
It’s kind of funny how out of the loop I am on things. We
started watching Rogue One this week, I would have watched it a long time ago
if I’d known Mads Mikkelsen was in it. I did hear that the Emoji Movie has one
of the lowest ratings possible, which makes me pretty happy. I cannot help but
pre-judge a movie that takes place in “Textopolis”. Maybe there will be
jail time for some of the actors for being in it.
I’ve been reading a lot of stuff about the Stone Age and
I really like the human story and the stretch of people that
connects all of us in the distant past. I love the idea that we were really
nothing special at one time, but the bravery and ingenuity of our ancestors
allowed us to spread out over the entire planet as the dominant species. It
also makes all the things that divide us and a majority of our modern
theoretical/philosophical approaches to all of it seem really insane.
That’s all I’ve got, I am fading.
Read something cool today. Do some work with your hands. Go
outside. Tell someone you love them.
Thanks for reading.
My sleep schedule has been really jacked up for the past few
I’ve been waking up in the middle of the night (12:33 or
2:33 to be precise) and not being able to go back to sleep until around 5 or 6,
if at all. It doesn’t bother me all that much, but it is starting to wear on me
physically. I noticed I got pretty out of breath just wrestling with Max last
night and I am craving huge amounts of sugar and carbs, neither of which is
good for me.
There is nothing personal going on here though, nothing
worth frustration or annoyance.
I am exhausted, but this is just a thing that is happening.
No one is doing this to me. I am not worried or anxious about anything. I do
not think this is indicative of some deeper issue. I go through these phases of
weird sleep schedules, this is one of them.
It’s not even a bad thing unless I get myself in opposition
I won’t suffer from this unless I start thinking it needs to
be different. As it is, it has been a great way to get the blog written and
published each night. I’ve done a lot of work on the website. I’ve gotten a lot
of reading out done. I even got to play Skyrim for an hour or two one night.
My body will hit a point of exhaustion where it corrects
It’s already happening. I have a dull headache, my stomach
hurts. I keep twisting my ankle. I don’t need sleep aids or alcohol to fix
this, it will work itself out eventually. Until then, I’ll embrace it and make
the most of it. Maybe I’ll start a secret fighting group that you aren’t supposed
to talk about. We’ll eventually blow up some buildings.
I’ve got the time now…
Thanks for reading, enjoy your Saturday.
I see a lot of stuff about how we shouldn’t care what other
Most of it is on catchy little pictures that people post on
Facebook and Instagram. There’s almost always a sunset involved. Maybe the
phrase “do you” or a quote about lions and sheep.
I get the impetus for these kinds of ideas.
We live in a world where we are easily driven by what other
people think and what other people have to say. Caring what the general person
of day-to-day America thinks about you is straight up suicidal because we live
in a society that seems to take a gleeful pleasure in breaking people down and
making them feel terrible about themselves. We love seeing people roasted and
destroyed over their eyebrows and shoes and choice of life partner.
Allowing yourself to invest in what everyone else thinks is
That being said, there is also a certain level of insanity
or sheer arrogance in trying to live without the input of those around us.
There are people out there who really don’t care what anyone thinks. You can
find them in prison or existing on the fringes of society. Their lives are
littered with broken relationships and people they have taken advantage of.
They have diagnoses like “psychopath”.
It’s not a healthy way to be either.
So where is the line here?
How do we determine who we should listen to and who we
I am not sure there is a perfect way to determine this, or a
perfect set of guidelines we can use to make this choice. A lot of it may come
down to what we are looking for and who we want to be. In general, I try to
have people in my life who I respect and trust and to give them the benefit of
the doubt when they offer me advice or criticism. If I automatically bristle at
someone’s advice, I have to ask myself if it is pride jumping up or if I simply
don’t respect what they have to say. If I do not respect their opinion I need
to explore just why this is.
The big task is to not get too invested in what the wrong
people think, while listening to what the right people have to offer.
I am not sure I do very well at any of this.
Who are the people you listen to?
What earned them this place of privilege in your life?
Are they the best suited for the job?
I am really tired of talking about intoxication so we are
I like dealing with reality as much as I can.
I am familiar with the different theories and ideas about
how we can never truly engage it, but can only touch it through ideas and
preconceptions and beliefs. I tend to agree with them.
We’ve talked about this in a couple of different ways over
the past year. Our mind as a lens or mirror for reality, but never a direct
apprehension. We are clouded by beliefs and preconceptions and prejudices and
wants and needs and desires and simple refusals to accept things as they are.
These are all things between us and a direct experience of reality. There’s
even a small delay in everything we are responding to due to light having to
travel a distance, no matter how quickly it does it.
This is why I encourage people away from intoxication. The
mirror is already smudgy, the lens is cloudy – why make it worse?
There is a presupposition on my part here as well though:
the idea that reality is in some way inherently superior to altered reality, or
that there is something inherently good about being in touch with it. Some may
disagree with me on this, and that’s cool. People do what they do, I really
don’t have a problem with that.
For me, I choose reality.
As much as I can. I try to keep the mirror streak-free. This
world is infinitely fascinating, there is never any excuse for boredom. Every
experience deserves our attention, no matter how painful or uncomfortable or
icky, simply because it is our experience. We are little outside our
experience, it is what creates us and makes everything that we would call our
It all deserves our clear attention.